Date nights and days

Dates are harder to make happen than we’d like to admit. There’s the challenge of prioritizing it enough to get it on the calendar, and then actually figuring out all the details and logistics, like finding a sitter. Another challenge is deciding what to actually do! If you’ve been with …

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5 Emotional Signals That a Relationship Needs Help

The years most couples spend struggling unhappily before seeking help may surprise you! Emotions give vital clues to help turn our attention where it’s needed in our most important relationships . 5 Emotional Signals That It’s Time to Get Help for Your Relationship When you and your loved one said ‘I do’, you already knew that marriage …

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How to keep the passion alive

Couples often lose their mojo after many years together, but research suggests being more responsive could rekindle desire By Jeanne Dorin on March 1, 2017 Credit: Getty Images It’s one of Hollywood’s classic plotlines: the married couple trying to reignite their passion after years of kids, dirty laundry and, well, …

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Best way to stop fights in your relationship

Even though it might seem that couples argue about a myriad of different issues, when we look a little deeper, we often find that most arguments have one thing in common: They are really about how we feel about each other, and more specifically, how loved or how significant we …

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The ten indicators of unconsciousness


  1. You’re not conscious when you do the same thing that doesn’t work over and over again.
  2. Consicousness is absent where there is blaming
    Blaming is relinquishing responsibility and assigning it to someone else
  3. One is not conscious when you make excuses
  4. One is not conscious if one uses the word “you” in talking to another person about themself
    Generalizations like, people like to…
  5. One is really not conscious when one describes the character and the motivation of another person
  6. Believing that your experience is reality is unconsciousness
  7. Believing that you live in the present is unconsciousness
    We all live in memory. Every moment is the experience of the past.
  8. Believing that others experience things the way you do is unconsciousness
  9. Devalue those who dont experience things the way you do is unconscious
  10. Believing that you are autonomous – separate and self sufficient is unconscious

    Plenary address by Harville Hendrix at the AIRT Imago Conference, Chicago, Oct 1993

When to seek couple counselling

Marriage rates supposedly are on the decline. While it’s an oft-repeated statistic that 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, that number has remained unchanged for the past 30 years. Divorce rates also vary with the partners’ level of education, religious beliefs, and many other factors. But when divorce …

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Recovering from divorce

If you’re having trouble letting go: There is life after this marriage As hard as it is to believe right now, one day this marriage will just be something you did once. You’ll go on and you’ll have what you create. Get out of denial Ask yourself: Do you really …

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